...It was her heart that shredded in bits and pieces at the immediate sight of what she called "another terrible God-given mistake". The doctors and nurses were equally perplexed, but definitely not as perplexed as Caroline or her gorgeous husband. Initially i felt this was some kinda movie script not until i saw the children myself.
Caroline has always been a vibrant and exceptionally loving mother to her first daughter, Mandy who happened to have been born deformed (with an imbecilic challenge). Having to cope with a cute imbecilic child wasn't exactly the cute married life Caroline envisaged; but somehow, through the tears, trauma, gossips and all, she was able to find a smile hidden underneath her daughter's frail life. Time has passed, Mandy is now three years old, and with the love and care of her both parents over the years, light appears to be shinning at the end of a seeming dark tunnel for the family.
But i wish, or rather Caroline and her husband wished that this new found light will keep shinning brighter and never go close to being dim. But i guess, life sure has a way of playing tricks on us. Caroline just gave birth to her second child a week ago. I was really glad when i saw her missed call cos she had earlier told me that she'd be due that week. So i returned her call ASAP, only to hear the sound of sadness, questions,bitterness and finally, the words "Helen, it has happened again". what had happened again? i wondered...and she went on..."another terrible God given mistake".
This time i knew exactly what she meant. I mean, how dare she call her own child an "Imbecile" or something close to it? So for a lack of, do i say , the right or wrong words...she had to use something else to describe the child she had given birth to again. It's indeed been a traumatizing phase for Caroline and her family. She needs not just our prayers but our help. She's a member of DEFINING MOMENTS on facebook and a dear friend of mine.
What do you advice she does...How can Caroline handle this phase of her life without totally falling apart?
*FOR THE SAKE OF CONFIDENTIALITY, THE NAMES USED IN THIS SEGMENT ARE TOTALLY NOT RELATED TO THE PEOPLE GOING THROUGH THE ORDEAL*
God please comfort her (caroline) and help her to know that you're not any less God even in this situation; just as you're not any more God when there is no storm.
ReplyDeleteGuide her by the hand and lead her through the times...Be her strength lord, Amen.
Being a divorced mother of an autistic child, my daily quote that helps me get by is "God only puts us through as much as we can handle, So the people who struggle the most, have been chosen by God to be the strongest ones!" All she needs is faith, patience & perseverance and she'll be fine. I pray her husband loves her enough to stick around. It's not easy all ....
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